Andrew (perspectivism) wrote,

"Why Women Initiate 91% of Divorce, End Most Relationships, & What Can Be Done about It"

Fresh & Provocative, April 17, 2000
Reviewer: A reader from California

I am a 47-year-old woman, widowed after a happy 15-year marriage, and now in another satisfying partnership with a man. Neither the title nor the contents of this book offend me -- far from it -- I think it's time American women took some responsibility for our decision-making powers. As the author points out, and my experience validates, we women choose the relationships we want, nurture them, manipulate them, feed them or starve them, and untimately decide whether they thrive or die. Women want sex in a loving context. Men want sex to soothe, comfort, and reassure them. It's up to women to demonstrate to our men the power they have to turn us on or turn us off. I agree with some of the other reviewers that there's a fine line between sexual blackmail and honest, immediate communication about the sexual climate in a relationship. [...] As the author also points out, it's men who suffer when women decide to terminate a marriage so men should welcome straight talk from a woman about her requirements for on-going sexual interest. As the author says, most men want to please us; they start out loving us and only resort to loveless sex if they are led to believe we don't care.

Some important new facts about divorce and relationships, October 19, 2000
Reviewer: Henry Johnston from Denver

We all have been well trained by modern psychology to accept the idea that every food, drug, alcohol, sex, money, emotional, or physical abuser has an enabler, i.e, someone who supports or encourages the bad behavior. According to "The 91% Factor" if the above is true, then it must also be true that women (who initiate 91% of divorce) divorce men because of the abusive male behavior that they (women) somehow enable, and that women could also enable good or loving marital behavior, if only they understood or knew how. According to the book women initiate 91% of divorce because they have not enabled good or loving marital behavior. The book demonstrates that women naturally enable good behavior on the first few dates...

deceptively simple and ingenious,I think?, January 6, 2000
Reviewer: A reader from Texas

Deceptively simple and ingenious. If by relationships you mean heterosexual then getting the sex in some reasonable context is the most important thing according to this book. [...] Sex is the glue that nature gave us, but it must be used properly; almost like food.

(the amazon reviews)


Andrew's impressions: This book looks very noteworthy -- though I doubt I actually agree even 10%. The author pushes a very powerful & plausible principle to its logical conclusion -- which, as usual, is too far!
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