That early NLP modelling produced two NLP models which reflect the way we distort, delete and generalise information. The two models have come to be known as the meta model, and the Milton model. Meta modelling reconnects language with experience. Milton model languaging paces people's experience. Asking meta model questions elicits highly specified answers. Milton model languaging is artfully vague.
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